In our mind, we either want to go back to before the event so that we can change what happened, so we can say or do something different, that might stop that thing from happening. Of course, you can’t go back, you can never go back and change that event. Or the other thing that happens is that we want to go back because we want that person to understand what they put us through.
The problem with that is, that person may never understand what they put you through. Even if they did, how would you know, when would you be satisfied that they understood what they’d put you through? What if they don’t care what they put you through? Or maybe they know what they put you through, but they just don’t want you to bring it up again – they want to leave it in the past because they don’t want to feel bad about it anymore. Is it possible that they’ve learned from their mistake? You see what happened was never about you. They either did what they thought was right at the time, in which case I’d invite you to think about all the possible reasons they might have behaved the way they did. You have only been seeing this from one perspective, and that isn’t necessarily reality. Or alternatively you can choose not to carry their wrongdoing. You can choose to leave them with their guilt, leave them with their shame. Let them own it! Why do you need to carry it with you for the rest of your life? Why do you need to keep holding on to that emotion which is making you unhappy? Let’s be clear, they’re not still making you unhappy… YOU are making you unhappy by holding on to it. I hope this will help you to let go of things which have happened in the past, so that you can move on, free and happy. I know that sometimes it’s not that easy to let go, it can be difficult. If that’s the case, then I have lots of techniques to help people get over past traumas. What I do is take the emotion out of the memory, so that you can retain the learning without feeling the bad feeling. If you would like help with that please give me a call on 02476450017 or 07758813667